Thursday, April 19, 2012

I'm Number 11 On the Top 10 List

As I mentioned recently, my daughter has moved out.  It happened Sunday, right after I shelled out big bucks for her birthday party.  Perfect timing on her part!

I knew she'd be moving out, but thought it'd be when she left for college in August.  I can't say I was shocked that she moved out sooner, but the day after her legal adult age is a little early. 

I like her boyfriend, I really do.  They've been together for a while now and seem happy together.  What I don't like is that he doesn't have a job.  Neither does his mother or sister.  That wouldn't be a problem if it weren't for the fact that my daughter has two part-time jobs and has now moved into a residence of three people who are unemployed.  Four people in one house with only one person working.  You do the math!
Then again, it's the "cool" house with the "cool people" doing "cool things".

Shelby and her boyfriend came over last night to get her belongings.  I did okay for the most part.  I kept busy doing household chores just so I didn't have to think about what was happening around me.  UNTIL  his mother called to check up on them and make sure the move was going okay and there were no problems caused by me.  EXCUSE ME!  I don't need another female calling to meddle in my business or affairs.  If I want to yell and scream at my daughter or knock sense into her, it's my right to do so.  I birthed her.  I raised her.  I sheltered, guided, and provided for her for 18 years. 

All I asked during this whole exchange of homes was for it not to be rubbed in my face that my daughter is now going to another mother and another family.  Is that too much to ask?!  Yeah, I'm a little pissy right now.


Belinda ~aka~pertyfultings said...
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Anonymous said...

Oh wow! I haven't been to Blogger in quite awhile, but this post really caught my attention. It really sucks you have to go through this, and I completely understand your concern. I have a family member that had the "cool" house. The one who's teenage daughter's friend's all called "Mom" and wished that their mom was like her. Let's just say, you certainly have the right to have concerns. I just hope the "environment" she's in doesn't change her plans for college in August. But quite honestly.....I think once she's there for awhile, she will eventually be sickened by what she once thought was cool.
I really feel for you. I raised my 2 (now grown) daughters all by myself, and have my 15 year old granddaughter that I've been raising since she was 2. I know the fears! You have my ear if you ever need it. =)

rubynreba said...

Don't blame you - I'd be pissy too! Hope things all work out for you.

Nichol said...

Ugh, I'd be the same. I hope they can get their heads out of their a**es and get jobs. She shouldn't have to support all of them. Hugs!

jenzen69 said...

What a horrible situation to be in. I could say it will all work out in the end or i could say be very afraid but i wont. What i will say is PARTY!! enjoy a little time alone because it wont last, she will be back

Mandy- Read. Write. Mom! said...

Oh, Terra. I know that was so hard to let her go. (hugs) I'm sure the novelty of this will wear off soon enough. The nerve of that boy's mom! Grrrrr!!!

Alexis AKA MOM said...

Oh yes I remember hanging at the "cool" house and the things that happened there. I now shutter at the thoughts :(. UGH being a kid really makes you think you know best.

Thankfully she has a plan for college and she will learn that ppl who have no jobs are really what they are.

SORRY hun, much love!!!

Gina said...

Ooh wow that is a toughie, but I do not blame you one bit for feeling the way that you do and being pissy! As if it wasn't hard enough to process things, but to throw that phone call into the mix :/
Hopefully things will be ok and she will keep her focus, fingers crossed and big hugs!!

Kayla @ TheEclecticElement said...

Oh man, I can feel the heat from over here! I swear, I really don't know how you didn't keep from just flipping your lid when they were moving-I don't know how you didn't reach THROUGH the phone to strangle his mother o.O

Cause honestly, that's what I would have done.

Unfortunately she has to make her own mistakes and triumphs in order to learn her life lessons and this just seems to be one of those learning experiences, good or bad.

All I can do is wish both you and her good luck!